Why Putting Yourself First Is the Least Selfish Thing You Can Do! 

Before kids, you had space. Maybe you didn’t realise it at the time, but you had little pockets of quiet, time to move, to breathe, to eat without rushing, to just be.

Then motherhood arrived. And suddenly, your time wasn’t yours anymore. And if you're like most mums, you’ve probably said this before: 

“I just don’t have time for myself anymore.” Or maybe even worse: “It feels selfish to want that time back.”

But here’s the truth you need to hear: 

It’s not selfish to choose you again. It’s necessary. Why Prioritising Yourself Isn’t Just About You! 

When you take care of yourself, you’re not taking anything away from your family. You're giving them a better version of you. More energy. More patience. More presence. More joy. Not because you're trying harder, but because your needs are finally being met too.

You show your kids what self-respect looks like. You teach them that mums are humans, not just helpers. And you remind your household that your wellbeing matters.

That’s not selfish. That’s leadership. But Where Do You Start?

1. Drop the Guilt

You don’t need to earn your own attention. You’re allowed to want to feel strong. You’re allowed to want space. Choosing you isn’t abandoning anyone, it’s reclaiming your identity.

2. Start Small, Stay Consistent

You don’t need an hour a day or a gym membership. Start with 10 minutes. A walk. A short workout. A stretch while the kids are playing. What matters is showing up, even in tiny ways.

3. Schedule You In

If it’s not on the calendar, it doesn’t exist. Block 20 minutes. Let your partner or support system help. It’s not “extra”, it’s essential.

The Ripple Effect of a Mum Who Feels Good 

When you feel better in your body, you show up differently. You parent from calm instead of chaos. You model healthy habits without preaching. You lift the energy of your entire home, because your energy comes from overflow, not depletion.

Your transformation isn’t just physical. It’s mental, emotional, generational.

So if you’ve been saying, “I had time before I had kids…” here’s your reminder: 

You’re allowed to make time again. You’re allowed to choose yourself, not instead of your family, but for them. 

Because when you rise, they rise too. And it starts with one small decision to say, “I matter again.”